Parenting

Patience v. Urgency

They say good things comes to those who wait, but only what is left by those who hustle.

This can apply to picking up ground balls on the field or getting that promotion at work. However, not everything good comes through hustle. Some of the best things in life come through patience.

The process of becoming a parent is a shining example of this. A pregnancy can’t be rushed. You can’t pick up the pace through the 10 month process. You can’t race to the finish line. Nearing the end? Not so quick. First the doctors must see ‘this’ before we move towards the goal of ‘that.’

Having relentless hustle can bring what you want, but having the ability to understand what you want and how to get there is paramount. Know when to ‘go go go’ and when to ‘lay low’ and you will continue to ‘grow.’

 

 
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The Direction You Choose

The recruiting process can be your own personal journey or someone else’s.

The process can be fun or frantic.

The process can a learning experience or futile.

The process can clear or confusing.

The process can be lead to the best four years or many tears.

The process can get you one step closer to a successful career or lead you astray from your hopes and dreams.

The process can lead to open doors or knock you down to the floor.

The process can keep a stick in your hand or force you to put it down.

Good grades, hard work, persistence, communication, accountability, respect, and hard work (said that twice on purpose), will give you the right to choose how you want to spend the process.

 
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The Process

When it comes to getting recruited, every player is different. One studlete wants to fly commercial airplanes one day, another wants to become a college coach. One studlete wants to be High School Social Studies teacher, another wants to be an entrepreneur. One wants a “DI Experience”, another wants to have the luxury of travelling abroad in the Fall.

While no two studletes are the same, they should still follow an intelligent route towards finding the perfect fit. At FLG, we call this path “The Process.” The Process offers our boys and girls a simple guide towards accomplishing the simple goal of finding the right fit after High School.

It’s important to note, the Process does NOT:

Guarantee.

Promise.

Compare.

However, The Process does:

Offer clarity.

Teach accountability.

Stimulate maturity.

Check FLG’s Process by clicking here.

 
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26 v. 100

The moment a child picks up a lacrosse stick, he or she is entering a marathon, not a 100 meter sprint.

A lacrosse stick should be used to bring joy, happiness, life lessons, history, confidence, respect, and opportunity to children. It shouldn’t be used to bring pain, fear, arrogance, and a lack of personal growth.

When parents and coaches alike approach children’s lacrosse careers as if it’s a sprint, nobody wins. Players lose interest in the game, grow to resent the sport, lack a sense of accomplishment, and constantly feel a fear of missing out.

The days of competing for championships, 3 hour practices, 2-a-days will eventually come. But, not if children are exposed to this mentally at such an early age. Their High School and/or college coaches will demand a tremendous amount of time and energy. But, not if that childhood prospect is completely burned out from the sport by the time they make it to HS. Top coaches and trainers will push players to the limits in order to achieve competitive greatness. Sacrifices will be made. Lessons learned. But, not if children are pushed too far too early in their lives.

It’s our duty as parents and youth coaches to know this is a long road. If playing at the highest level in lacrosse is something your child wants, approach it with the big picture in mind. Let your child learn different aspects of the game one step at a time. Don’t cut corners and your child will get the best possible opportunity to decide if achieving competitive greatness is something they truly want. Ultimately, It’s their decision. Parents and coaches just need to guide, support, teach, and keep things in perspective.

 
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Unfold, don’t Mold.

Children aren’t meant to be molded, but unfolded.

Inside each of us is an individual waiting to express oneself. Children need to be given an opportunity to give more of themselves, an opportunity to gain the confidence to be who they are, and given the freedom to develop their own perceptions of the world.

The focus shouldn’t be on shaping children to become a specific thing. Instead, energy and effort from teachers, parents, coaches, and mentors should be spent on giving children a chance to unfold their true selves. Unfold, don’t mold.

 

 
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Magnus

In the Netflix Documentary, Magnus, Director Benjamin Ree follows the life of a childhood chess prodigy – Magnus Carlsen. This film captures Magnus Carlsen’s road from childhood prodigy to chess world champion.

As Magnus dedicates his life to becoming the greatest Chess player in the world, the support of his family becomes a vital part of Magnus’ success. Specifically, a key contributor to Magnus’ success comes through the love and support displayed by his father. This story is a shining example of how a father should approach a child who is striving to be the best they can be.

Instead of constantly:

Pushing.

Criticizing.

Worrying.

Comparing.

Yelling.

Cheering.

Magnus’ Father decided to constantly:

Believe in.

Support.

Parent.

Encourage.

Accept.

and Love his son.

A great documentary for studletes looking to be great, parents looking for a shining example of how to handle a talented child who wants to be great, or for a sibling learning how to deal with a family member who is striving for greatness.

Tune into Netflix to learn more about the amazing story of Magnus Carlsen, childhood prodigy to chess champion.

 
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